Is someone stressing you out at the moment?

You might be surprised to know, that the way this person makes you feel is more about YOU then about them. Maybe it’s someone who is controlling and overpowering and you find yourself playing small. Or is it the non-responsive type who won’t communicate clearly and you’re left guessing what they mean.

Have you ever thought, that these people might have a message for you? A lesson that could transform your whole world?

When I first started going out with Andy, we weren’t very good at communicating. I wanted him to share his feelings; he needed time to figure out exactly what he felt. The more I pushed to understand him, the more he shut down. We both found these situations really frustrating.

This is where relationships can get messy, as underlying agendas are at play and consciously or subconsciously we want others to make us feel better and we blame them for our discomfort.

When I look back, there were common feelings when these situations popped up. I thought it was my fault; I felt alone and wanted things fixed, quickly! The thing is … I had an agenda. I didn’t like the feelings these situations stirred up in me and if I could fix it, the feelings would disappear… for a while at least.  So often, my ‘caring’ was more about me rather than the betterment of our relationship.

When you see a pattern in your life where you attract a certain type of person who stirs up certain feelings in you, there is NO coincidence. You’ve most likely attracted this person to show you where you have an old belief that isn’t serving you and it’s time to do the internal work.

If you can relate, ask yourself the following questions:

1. What are the similarities showing up in my relationships?

2. What feelings do all of these situations bring up in me?

3. What do I believe about myself when I’m with these people?

4. What is the truth – about me?

5. What is this situation here to teach me?

6. What do I need to believe about myself?

7. What do I need to do when I’m in these situations?

By taking yourself through this simple process, you’ll uncover a belief that is holding you back in your relationships, business, actually your whole dam life!

With this knowledge, you have the awareness to change your thought patterns and create new, uplifting beliefs. You’ll also begin to meet your own needs, which is so empowering. From this space, you’ll see the situation more clearly and be confident to respond rather than react. You’ll most likely notice that the power and control thread, which was once the undercurrent of your conversations, will dissipate. Instead a mutual respect will be fostered and understanding and compassion will be foundations your relationships can grow from.

“When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change”

So, what message are people trying to tell you?

Hey there, thanks for popping in!

I’m not your biz coach, I’m the girl you call when you want to free yourself from your limiting beliefs and amp up your self-love, so you can marry your plans and unwavering self-belief and take your business and life to the next level x