Do You Feel Like A Failure?
Deep down do you feel like a failure?
You’ve got goals? You want to improve your life, yet deep down you believe you just don’t have the skills, the brain or the courage to make it happen.
You’ve tried to improve your relationship, stick to your diet, speak up to your boss or set boundaries with your family, but you always get the same results… you end up walking on egg shells, doing all the work, eating the chocolate and/or avoiding the gym. You beat yourself up and wonder what’s wrong with me, why can’t I get my shit together! Why do I have to be so damn useless.
You take all the blame… You alter the reality and make comments like, I’m sorry; I should have known better; gosh I’m so silly; what was I thinking; how do you put up with me.
You make yourself small – so, so small.
Then you try to make up for the shitty job you think you’ve done. You give more than you’ve got, you say yes to things you either don’t have time for or you’re not even interested in, you head to the gym and do twice as much as normal, hoping it will make up for the days you haven’t been. You cut all sugar from your diet to make up for the crap you’ve eaten and by the end of the week, your head hurts, your body aches, you’re exhausted and you have nothing to give.
You had hoped these changes would make a difference, but you were wrong and this just validates what you’ve been thinking all along. There must be something wrong with me, why can’t I get my shit together?
I know, I’ve been there and I’m here to say breathe… relax… it’s going to be okay.
You’ve been doing the best you can and it’s time to stop and acknowledge yourself, be kind and to love yourself a little more.
Sometimes love is all that is needed for you to create the life you’re craving.
Love looks like many different things: encouragement, self-care, time out, a positive mindset, a gentle heart, a peaceful spirit, a relaxed body, healthy food, or being with supportive people – the list is endless.
Quite often we think by achieving our goals, we’ll feel better about ourselves. That once we’ve lost the weight, improved the relationship, sorted the family, or made the boss happy life will be sweeter, and it’s true, it will… momentarily.
I do believe that achieving our goals can make us feel better, however if all of these experiences were lost, would our deep-seated beliefs resurface?
What would happen if you simply worked on one goal – to be happy and content in your own skin and know that you are good enough?
What would change if this one statement was firmly set in your mind, body and Soul? Actually your Soul already knows this as your truth, so what if you knew it in your mind and body?
How would your self-care, relationships, finances, career and mindset look?
Due to experience, I’ve come to understand that when I’m feeling good about myself, I want to look after me, I enjoy taking the time to put healthy food into my belly, I find time to exercise, I’m more confident and speak up, I feel more courageous, deserving, positive and I see my full potential. I also find working towards my goals much easier when I’m in a good space.
I have goals I’m working on, however my number one priority is to make sure I feel good, because this has a ripple effect on every area of my life and is the foundation for a wonderful life.
So why not make feeling happy, content and good enough a priority. Add little rituals that have you feeling great and stop the activities that pull you down.
Notice how different you feel about working towards your goals and how your interactions with people alter as you radiate from a happy content space.
Let us know below, what’s one simple thing you could do to honour yourself more this week?
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